Is this seat taken?

I ask this question a lot and have been asked why I do it. I typically hear something like…

“Can’t you just find another chair-don’t bother them”

The answer is simple really! I love meeting new people and learning new things.

It is the number one way to grow both personally and professionally. As long as you’re being strategic on who you’re sitting next to of coarse..

I know not everyone feels this way.

And It hasn’t always been this way for me,

I’ve always felt different and struggled to feel like I fit in. You’re too loud, you’re too quiet, you don’t drink, you drink too much. Truth is, There’s always been something inside of me that I honestly could never quite put a description on…so I gave it a name

RichBitch…

In July of 2016, I was at a local music festival and ran into a friend. She asked me where I was working and I was like “well no where right now” and she was like “oh you should call me, we’re hiring” I said “ok” but never really planned to. Again, I got that “I won’t fit in” feeling. For the next week, I had a very strong feeling pushing me towards her was one of the strongest feelings of gut instinct I’ve ever had. So, I started working for a well-known media company 5 weeks later. Learn to listen to your instincts. I was song so wrong! These were my people! I’m happy to say they still are.

This media company was and still is home to 5 of the top radio stations in my area. I love radio!

At a very early age, I needed a radio. When the cassette player came out…woahhhh….look out! At 7, I was a DJ on my radio show…I one cassette tape and an ugly brown fisher price tape player. Now that I think about it, maybe it was the podcast of the 80’s.

I tell you this because now that you know my love for radio, you’ll understand why I felt absolutely sick the first time I had to record a commercial. Was it fear? Was is excitement? Did you know they feel the same?

A few weeks later I had a major OH CRAP moment-I had completed what I dreamed of doing as a kid. Where do I go now?

Not that I needed to go anywhere “those were my people”! And if you are listening now I know you’re laughing because I never told anyone that story!

Still, The universe was working in my favor to keep pushing me towards a greater purpose because this was an excellent stepping-stone to being offered a great position at an incredible company. And now I’m here with you today.

I want to back up for just a minute, before running into my friend and starting that “dream job” I’d just walked out of a terrible job in the middle of the afternoon 3 days earlier. It was my turn to have an unscheduled review. Around this office you knew what was next. It was seriously a carousel of overworked employees waiting for their turn to be the punching bag. I believe my last words as I snatched my bag from behind my boss were. “ok Well, I’m about to take my sorry ass out of here”. And I did, and I sat in my bed and cried for the next two hours while trying to eat a Wendy’s cheeseburger. It ripped my heart out…

I had overcome so much before that point and was finding myself once again in a place where I was being talked down to, taken advantage of, and lied to in all areas of my life.

I was also a single mom co-parenting with an addict, and had almost fallen. victim to a few addictions to myself. Pain pills…don’t take them!

year before I left the toxic job I was in a terrible atv accident on my 40th birthday. The seriousness of this accident was completely downplayed by those involved.

5 years later, I’m still dealing with nerve and tissue damage and there’s a weird dent in my forehead where my skull was fractured, otherwise, I’m awesome.

I was out of work for months, I was dependent on oxycodone, severely depressed and the cherry on top was when my 15 year old daughter had to bathe me for weeks. I hope you never have to experience that kind of humiliation.

It almost got the best of me. I was exhausted -mentally and physically.

I don’t care what anyone tells you…prayer works!

I’m not a perfect person by any means and I think that’s why god listens when I talk. He’s seen me at my worst, and given me extraordinary strength when

I needed it most. I’m pretty sure those same prayers have also led me here to help you.

I woke up one day and something inside me had changed it was not like the times before. I started cutting people out my life left and right if they weren’t helping me move forward in a positive direction. I forgave the ones that hurt me, stayed laser focused, and invested more in myself than ever. before. I could’ve easily given up and I’m so glad I didn’t . That was the unstoppable force that released MY RichBitch.

It has nothing to do with money (well maybe a little bit) Mostly the other form of wealth…YOUR VALUE. When you find it and take action in protecting it, the money will follow.

Despite the scars and dirt under my fingernails, It’s an amazing feeling and you need to experience it!

Why am I telling you all of this?

because I know what it feels like to be insecure in every area of your life. I’ve been hurt, hungry and flat broke with 2 children to care for.

It is hard! And I know it seems even worse for you right now because we’re in a year with a pandemic. Things seem scarce, you’re probably feeling anxious, moody, lonely and maybe even kind of hopeless…and these feelings aren’t just coming from home.

Did you know? 329 companies were surveyed not long ago with over 68,000 employees. 52% of these women said they’d been interrupted or talked over by their male counterparts and 38% said they had others take credit for their ideas.

Men on the other hand are given the opportunity to speak longer, can be more argumentative and it gives them more authority.

Now, This is not a man bashing story-I love men and I do not think we are all created equal, however I do believe that when we recognize our differences and listen to each other…that’s when change will begin.

If you’ve ever been made to feel less than, referred to as intimidating, too outgoing , or bossy. I want you to know you’re in the right place AND You are not those things. That’s your RichBitch shining through.

Don’t take your voice for granted and don’t let anyone make you feel like you what you have to say isn’t important. Your voice is the mirror to your soul and it will help you unlock your potential. Not everyone will like what you have to say and that’s ok. Don’t be rude of course but definitely start speaking up so you can begin to unlock your potential.

You’ve gotta transform your thinking… set yourself up for an epic comeback.

Sounds easy right?

I’m sorry to say… it isn’t

But you know what?

I’m going to help you do it. 😊

Why?

Because for the last 5 years I’ve unlocked my potential by working with some of the best mentors on the planet!

I’ve learned how to be a better Mom, let go, forgive and move forward.

I’ve also become a top client relationship builder, cold call expert, and community leader.

If you want a better 2021 and beyond it’s time to start letting go of the fear and doubt you have inside yourself . Stop allowing people to steal your joy. No more procrastinating. Seriously, we are dealing with a pandemic there could not be a better time to stay home and invest in yourself. You have something special inside of you and the world needs you to share it.

I’ve made it super easy for you. I’ve done all the hard work. Compiled what works best and tested it. It’s life changing!

I don’t ever want you to feel less than or left behind again.

I’m making it my personal responsibility to share this valuable information with you because I want to see you unleash your richbitch so that wherever your journey takes you, you’ll never be afraid to ask “Is this seat taken”?

-D

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